The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck (Mark Manson)

Takeaway

Perusing the negative generates positivity for example: the pain of exercise brings overall better; being open with your insecurities paradoxically makes you more confident
Disappointment Panda: tells you the hard truth such as:
- your actions don’t really matter that much in the grad scheme of things
- we are mediocre
Value of suffering: we are all going to suffer so might as well suffer for something we like

Exercise: choose something that bothers me.

Why does it bother me?

Why does that seem true?

Why does this ‘truth’ insinuate my initial bother?

Moral: this helps to identify two things: a value I go by and a metric I use to assess that value.

how to set value? Shitty vs good?
- shitty is pleasure, material, always being right and staying super positive for ex: being the most popular person in the party?
- good is reality based, immediate such as honestly, standing up for oneself, curiosity
Choose your suffering! Claim responsibility for everything* in your life.
To Change your value and metric in which you assess your values are as simple as choosing to give a fuck about something else. It’s simple, not easy.
- you will feel like shit. It’s normal. You will feel like a failure. It’s uncomfortable.
“The more something threatens your identity, the more you will avoid it”
Question yourself:
- what if I’m wrong?
- what would it mean if I am wrong? Would it hurt others?
- would bring wrong create a better or a worse problem than my current situation, for both myself and others?
You don’t know what you’re doing so there’s nothing to lose ever.
Action —> inspiration —> motivation
Healthy relationships: ppl solve their own problems and feel good about each other. Nobody needs to solve someone else’s problem
Facing death in the face is what is needed to feel alive.
WE ARE ALL GOING TO DIE so if we accept that fact, then it becomes a light for our live in order to live fully
Death is the only certain thing in our lives so that becomes the compass.